Repentant female Boko Haram insurgents seek love, companionship
Investigations have uncovered a growing concern among the female Boko Haram insurgents who have surrendered their weapons and renounced terrorism – they are struggling to find male partners.
As these former insurgents are reintegrated into society, the women among them are facing difficulties in finding suitable husbands.
Reports reveal that despite being accepted back into their communities, the female ex-insurgents have expressed challenges in getting married, as law-abiding men seem hesitant to form relationships with them. This situation has raised significant apprehensions among community leaders.
Official figures indicate that there are around 162,000 surrendered insurgents and their families, with no specific data on the number of single, divorced, or widowed women among them. Some community leaders have voiced concerns about the reluctance of men to engage romantically with the repentant female insurgents, despite the women openly expressing their desire for companionship and marriage.
“These ladies desperately want to marry or remarry, but men seem scared of them, as no suitors approach them with such proposal,” a ward head at Old Maiduguri, Modu Grema Wakil, complained.
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“I have not compiled the number of such ladies, but they send messages to us as community leaders over the matter,” he said.
Wakil continued: “Our fear is that if these women and girls do not get the men to marry, they may be tempted to renege on their repentance vow from terror activities and return to the bush.
“But when they get suitors and marry or remarry in the law-abiding society, other girls and women still in the bush could be encouraged to surrender and come back home.”
Asked if the problem was a matter of societal stigma, the community leader assured: “No. I don’t think so because the societal stigma against them is waning.”
He stressed, “but we are severely pained by the fact that suitors are scared of marrying them, because most people still don’t believe they have genuinely repented, and, therefore, they may slaughter their husbands and flee back to the bush.”
Wakil called on the Borno State government to create a database of such repenting female insurgents with a view to persuading suitors to approach them and organising marriages for them.
Further expressing his fears, he maintained: “The inability to marry or remarry at home may tempt them to renege on their repentance.”
Responding, the Borno State Commissioner for Women Affairs and Social Development, Zuwaira Gambo, told this newspaper that, “It is a welcome development that they are expressing their desire to marry or remarry, because it will help to stabilise them in the law-abiding society.”
She said the state government would work with the Maiduguri-based NGO, Allamin Foundation, to create the required database for that purpose.
“The Foundation has forwarded to us the Charter of Demands of the various victims of the insurgency, including such women and girls,” Gambo stated, pointing out further, “We are still expecting a report from the Foundation on such demands to enable us do the needful for every set of victims.”
Efforts by our correspondent to speak with some of the ladies did not yield fruit as it was difficult to get them to speak with this newspaper for fear of being further stigmatised especially in a setting as the north.
Moreover, many of them are said to have melted into the population, but preferring to raise their concerns to their various community leaders through the third party.
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